How can i get these family bind to be stiffer?

[ldotchopz]

I am trying to get stiff cable like physics but they droop down at the base when simulated, I am using surface test, object bind, particle bind (family bind) to get this but the stiffness doesn't go up enough, and i cannot seem to make any difference using modify bindings, more steps etc. is there some way to have the object bind effectiveness phase out like a soft selection?

Thanks